In the first trimester:
"Isn't your risk for miscarriage really high?" (actual comment made to me in my first trimester!)
In any trimester:
"Wow, are you pregnant with twins?" (made by a woman who is way larger then I am now and doesn't even have the excuse of pregnancy)
"I haven't heard anything but are you pregnant or just getting fat." (oh~ where is the dying art of social tack)
"You're only 5 months pregnant! You are going to be huge at 9 months" (this little gem was also accompanied by the man holding his hand out away from my belly to illustrate how large he believed I would become)
"Whoa, whoa don't move your going to blow!" (not actually said to me but to a friend of mine)
After these comments I got a little worried and talked to my doctor. I didn't think I had turned into Jabba the Hut but maybe I was living in a hormonal pregnancy dreamworld. Guess what all you nast people with your rude comments my weight gain is actually on the low end of the acceptable range! And my uterus is measuring right on track too! Now I don't think these people were trying to be vicious but it is these kinds of thoughtless comments that make women pregorexic. Here is my advice to the world, just keep your mouths shut about pregnant people's appearances. Even if a women gains more than the recommended amount, do you have the body of a Greek god? My guess is no as most of the people who made comments to me didn't exactly win the genetic lottery, in fact some of them quite plainly lost. Has anyone else been victim to a litany of vocal pregnancy abuse? What are you stories?
4 comments:
well meredith dear... i have been asked if I was pregnant when I wasnt and I think that is the worst of all!
I soO enjoyed being told I looked like I was big enough to go into labor...when I was only 6 months along!
Oh but the BEST one was this: You look like a starving Ethiopian. Because it was all in my stomach, the rest of me was still thin. From a guy who, you guessed it, had NOT won the genetic lottery, as you say. SO RUDE.
I had really mean comments too, but mainly from my students.
"I thought you were just getting fat"
and so on.
But as for me, I did gain double the recommended amount, and at the end I had people tell me "you look great!" "it's all baby".. ALL LIES
The baby came out and my butt was still the size of MARS!!! isnt pregnancy grand?
i had two people ask me in the same day if i was pregnant and i was NOT. that was a terrible day. the day my second baby was born i was at church (i didn't know i was in labor) and somebody said "honey, why don't you go home? you look awful!" i probably did, but still, don't SAY that. i hate that pregnancy has become an excuse for people to insult you.
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